If we want to be as happy as humanly possible in marriage, we practice loving others like he loves us. When we say “exclusive” today, we typically mean one person at a time. For instance, someone could have been divorced five times and still be “exclusively” dating someone today.
And the ways we prepare ourselves to love like him will look very different from every other trend in dating. I think we can all agree that is a shallow and superficial way to think about exclusivity.
Again, dating is primarily pursuit, not preparation. Like other experiences in life, dating will prepare and mature us in one way or another, but we don’t date in order to prepare ourselves for someone else.
God prepares us for marriage in a thousand other ways that are not spring-loaded with the risks, obstacles, and difficulties of dating.
celebrate their spouse’s past relationships, it’s almost always because of what they didn’t do — not because that other relationship was a “valuable learning experience” on the way to marriage. We might talk freely about how much dating will prepare us for marriage before we are married, and then we almost never talk about our dating relationships after we’re married. Because dating does not really prepare us for marriage, especially if we treat it like a trial run or a test drive.
Unfortunately, many of us are being told we must date early and often if we ever want to be ready for marriage.