Games and dating
Second, it is hard to determine the difference between a "well intentioned promise" that falls through and a manipulation that your partner never intended to honor.However, there are some strategies to sort out the difference: 1) Get Yours First - If the promise of an exchange really is sincere, then it doesn't matter who gets theirs first.You can tell the other person 1) how the relationship is going to change until the promise is fulfilled, and 2) what will happen if it is not fulfilled.You explain that you will loan them money, under the following conditions...Hi - My ex-BF used to make me feel guilty about asking for anything in return for what I gave him.
After all, aren't we supposed to do things for our partners out of love rather than wanting something back? Your partner should be eager to return the favor and balance the relationship. 2) You should never be made to feel guilty about what you want or need. Sure, nobody can get "everything" they want, but it is always okay to ask.I always had a feeling that he mainly wanted me around because I helped him out.Whenever I was too busy with my own stuff to help, he'd cut me off, but then he was almost always too busy to help me with my stuff.Unfortunately, even sex and marriage commitments are sometimes given under the pretenses of false promises.
False promises are particularly tricky to defend against for two reasons. In most cases, that is not only acceptable, but healthy too.So, you can test their sincerity by reflecting back how a promise makes THEM look and feel.