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When I was 15, I was dating a 28-year-old (cue gasping).Looking back at that relationship now, seven years later, there are so many things I wish someone had told me before I decided to become the Lolita to this guy’s Humbert².And if there’s one thing of which I’m certain about you Rookies, it’s this: to borrow a compliment frequently expressed to you by your grandpa/kindly next-door neighbor/best friend’s mom, YOU ARE VERY MATURE FOR YOUR AGE.Which means it can sometimes be tough to find things in common with other people who, well, aren’t that way, including potential homecoming dates.But when it comes to music, pop culture references, or the fact that my husband could go an entire day without saying more than five words, and I probably could not muster such a feat if paid in great sums of cash is when our differences(age notwithstanding) make our differences more pronounced and make us appear like we are on opposite ends of the relationship spectrum.
If you share my teenage (and current) tendencies and decide, after reading all these points, to charge ahead with your May-December romance, no one here is judging you, and I hope it’s a beautiful and positive experience. What this means is that even if the person you’re seeing doesn’t know you’re underage—like, even if you show him or her a fake ID—he or she can face felony charges if someone finds out that you’re engaging in any kind of sexual activity, even if you were a willing participant.None of that stuff happened to me, but I still wince when I remember how I idealized the thought of someone being single-mindedly obsessed with me the way the novel’s narrator is with Lolita.(Um, probably don’t do this, you guys.) It wasn’t like I was stupid. But I didn’t have enough experience or wisdom (as opposed to intelligence) to completely understand what I was getting into.Which isn’t to say that there aren’t plenty of loving, mutually respectful relationships between people with long gaps between their birth years.
Not every one of these situations is going to be a soap opera about forbidden love and sexual corruption; sometimes it really is just about two people who really like and respect each other.The truth is–we’re just your average couple- yes we’ve got a few skeletons although I can assure you none of them involve drinking blood and sleeping in coffins.