However, one thing that bugs me about being a single mother, weirdly, is concern for these childish men. I remember, when I was breaking up with one of my exes years ago, he listed all the ways I made his life better when trying to convince me not to go. When I’m with women, I read about health issues that effect lesbian demographics (higher rates of breast cancer, obesity, and depression.) When I’m with men, I read about health issues that effect straight men (coronary issues, blood pressure, and emotional issues esp.
Sperm donors have *tons* of kids — this guy apparently had 800. As more and more women choose single motherhood, fewer and fewer men will get to have children because these “super donors” are having so many. And I asked him, “but how do you think you make my life better? around anger.) When I date people of color, I research POC health/discrimination/etc.
issues, especially issues around dating white people (mental/health effects of internalized racism, institutionalized racism, the types of micro-aggressions I may be likely to commit.) When I date people with less money, I pay for shit.
Something like 80% of men say they want kids vs 70% of women. Except like, maybe the memo hasn’t gotten around about this child-desiring imbalance?Which is why it’s that the men I date are totally checked out on this front.I mean, ok I know men don’t have as sharp a biological clock as women do, but a) they do have one, and b) if you can’t get a hot 20 year old babe in your 20s or 30s, why do you think it’ll be easier in your 50s?I couldn’t find any statistics for the US, but in Norway about 25% of men never have kids while percentage of childless women is much lower.
Historically, nearly always a higher percentage of women have kids than men do.
This would also involve taking his last name, doing most of the housework while contributing 50% to the earnings, and faking my orgasms so he doesn’t have to feel emasculated by his lack of sexual prowess. It would involve some sacrifices, like probably not living in San Francisco.